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[likethebeer]

My flute teacher says I'm really doing well w/Syrinx (by Claude Debussy; here's a brief download of it). Of course, she says I do well in a lot of things. I am noticing an improvement in the upper register; of course, I still don't sound as rich as her. It would probably help if I didn't drink the occasional BEER while practicing (um, not v.good for the embouchure).... Well, and SMOKING doesn't help in playing the flute, either, but that should be completely obvious by now, anyway.

Months ago I was in a quandary about her wedding, and I was going to lie that I had a party to go to on that day. Actually, I do have a party to go to on that day, one that I was invited to back in January. I could make it to part of the event (Tammy's wedding), but the problem is that the part I could make it to would be the Catholic wedding ceremony. The reception doesn't start until 4 hours later. Wtf?? I've seen 2-3 hours, but never 4. Mda says I should drive in, go to the receiving line, then leave. I have to break the news to her. The invites didn't have an RSVP card in them, which is also v.weird. Not that I care about all of the little wedding rules, but some of them make a lot of sense. How the hell will they know how many people are coming?

I forget, but I think you get a present for someone whether or not you go to their wedding (I've never refused before). I've thought about making a stained glass/music-themed thing for her, but she does have a lot of music-themed things, and I don't know her tastes v.well, so... Off to Target. I love the fact that people can register at places like Target & Home Depot nowadays.

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[(Anonymous)]

Get the gift (gift cards are easy & nice), send it BEFORE the wedding by two weeks with a letter thanking them for the invitation, expressing your regrets and wishing them a long and happy union.

They may be having a buffet or appetizer reception, ergo a head count would be unnecessary.

Mr. Manners

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[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

Excellent! Thank you, Mr. Manners.

[livsmama.livejournal.com]

"The invites didn't have an RSVP card in them, which is also v.weird. Not that I care about all of the little wedding rules, but some of them make a lot of sense. How the hell will they know how many people are coming?"

Miss Manners says you are supposed dto write a note and tell them if you are coming or not.

I still contend that you can just tell her you have "other obligations" that day and then don't go. And you only have to give her a gift if you want to. It is a *gift*. Not an obligation ;)

[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

Wow, thanks. Who knew? So, a note, huh? I guess I'd better get to Target soon to get that gift & note ready so that I'm in compliance :)

[djymm.livejournal.com]

Ah, the vagaries of etotiquete. On that topic, how long were you planning to stay on your visit? I'd be happy to act as your guide to some sites of interest over the weekend, if you'll be here and wanted to see the town.

[djymm.livejournal.com]

I can spell, really, I've just got a toddler randomizing things for me.

[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

I had wondered about etotiquette, and whether it had another meaning I wasn't aware of.

[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

I was thinking of leaving on Sunday. Thank you for the offer. I have to badger mda because he didn't mention the trip to his boss yesterday, but we are planning on it.

[livsmama.livejournal.com]

We didn't send out reply cards with our invites. They are extra postage (cuz you put a stamp on the card to send back) extra weight in the invite (so more extra postage) and half the people don't send them back anyway. We had an accurate count even though we had to track some people down and say "are you coming?" (mostly MIL's job)

and--one more thing from bossy Julia--it would be rude for her to say to you "well, why not?" when you tell her you won't be able to attend her wedding...so you can just answer "becuase." if she does ask, which I would bet she wouldn't :)

Ok, I'll shut up now!

[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

Oh, wondrous one of all that is known in the wedding domain, I thank you once again. Nope, not bossy at all--I appreciate everything you've told me.

[livsmama.livejournal.com]

I have a wedding problem, ya know. I was one of those girls that started planning mine when I was 8--and now I've had the only one I am going to have, so what do I do with all this info in my head?

(I have lots of problems...)

[likethebeer.livejournal.com]

Become a wedding planner. Start a blog on livejournal called "wedding_planner" and people can right in questions for a small fee. $5. No problem. I'm sure you'll just fit that right into your schedule.

[livsmama.livejournal.com]

How would I charge people? set up a paypal account?

It could certainly be fun...

[scotia-girl.livejournal.com]

Well, now I know who to go to with my inevitable odd wedding etiquette questions. Cool.

[livsmama.livejournal.com]

Yep, I am the one :)

There are *rules* after all .