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May. 8th, 2005
non-religious religious stuff
May. 8th, 2005 02:10 pmI've not gone to the FUS for 2 Sundays now. I'm feeling sort of bad about that. I want to keep going on a spiritual journey, but it's so hard when there's mowing to do. Oh, yeah, and I've needed the oil changed in my car for an embarrassingly long time, so the 100 miles makes me nervous.
But I think here's 1 of the other reasons: the last time I went, I got in just at the beginning, and the place was rather full. I sat in an empty chair next to this woman and we shared a hymnal. She hadn't seen me before (it's a big congregation, so that's not unusual), and asked me how long I've been going, and such. Telling me things aobut the congregation that I already know, but I was too polite to tell her that. Then she asked me if I wanted to "go to the Loggia to have coffee" (I laugh, b/c of the "Unitarian Jihad", and their pronouncement at the end that there will be coffee and cookies in the Gandhi Room after the revolution--it seems that UUs are big on coffee and snacks after their services). I said, sure, I'd like to meet some people.
Then she told me that her husband had just left her. Then she proceeded to introduce me to people, then tell them that her husband left her. Obviously, she was wigged out and I can see that perhaps her judgment wasn't too good in that moment. Plus, it's totally cool that she uses the community to help her out. But it didn't help how uncomfortable I felt about the whole thing.
Anyway, I never got the coffee. She went off to talk to the education director, I tried to get her attention and couldn't, so I left w/out saying goodbye. Then I felt sort of guilty, even though I knew I shouldn't.
I think what waseven odder as odd to me were her statements regarding the FUS. Very devoted. And I got this sense while talking to her that I was talking to a fanatical UU, which I should have supposed was possible, but hadn't encountered it before.
Anyway, this is, I suppose, an excuse. I want to do some home-y things now that the weather's finally nice, and my feelings toward the encounter w/this woman are really the excuse. I'll make it back. Plus, there's a local chapel that has UU services in the summer, so that will be a lot easier to attend, as soon as they start that up.
But I think here's 1 of the other reasons: the last time I went, I got in just at the beginning, and the place was rather full. I sat in an empty chair next to this woman and we shared a hymnal. She hadn't seen me before (it's a big congregation, so that's not unusual), and asked me how long I've been going, and such. Telling me things aobut the congregation that I already know, but I was too polite to tell her that. Then she asked me if I wanted to "go to the Loggia to have coffee" (I laugh, b/c of the "Unitarian Jihad", and their pronouncement at the end that there will be coffee and cookies in the Gandhi Room after the revolution--it seems that UUs are big on coffee and snacks after their services). I said, sure, I'd like to meet some people.
Then she told me that her husband had just left her. Then she proceeded to introduce me to people, then tell them that her husband left her. Obviously, she was wigged out and I can see that perhaps her judgment wasn't too good in that moment. Plus, it's totally cool that she uses the community to help her out. But it didn't help how uncomfortable I felt about the whole thing.
Anyway, I never got the coffee. She went off to talk to the education director, I tried to get her attention and couldn't, so I left w/out saying goodbye. Then I felt sort of guilty, even though I knew I shouldn't.
I think what was
Anyway, this is, I suppose, an excuse. I want to do some home-y things now that the weather's finally nice, and my feelings toward the encounter w/this woman are really the excuse. I'll make it back. Plus, there's a local chapel that has UU services in the summer, so that will be a lot easier to attend, as soon as they start that up.